Fisherman Story

Lots of people complain, just because of a bit of inconvenience that they experience.

One day a fisherman brings his 15 year old son out to catch some fish. It was a hot and sunny day and it has been 4 hours out in the sea without any fish caught yet. The boy got inpatience.

He said to his Dad, "Why does it takes so long to catch a fish."

The Dad just sit there and continued fishing on this boat.

The boy continued, "Why do we have to catch a fish on such a hot day."

The Dad just sit still and concentrate on his fishing.

The Boy for more irritated, he started to rock the boat to get his dad attention. He shouted "Dad! I wanna go Home!"

Then suddenly, the boat topple over and both of them got into the sea, luckly his Dad knows how to swim and he help his son and swam back to shore. After reaching the shore his Dad said "If only you give me a bit of patience, i can give you alot of fish, but now since that you are impatience, we must now make a new boat before we could catch some fish."

Worries

Everyone feels worries sometimes or someday at some event or reasons. Worry that you would fail the exams, worry of what your parents would say to you, worry of which school you would end up with, worry of who your love mate is and so on and so forth. It's ok to feel worry cause you would be more prepared and more cautious of what you do now in the present. If a person who does not worry, which means he does'nt concern so much about the outcome.
Worrying too much is just something that you keep on thinking too much on a particular action that has various outcome. For example, a person studying for his coming test, he worry that what happens if he fail, if he fails this test he would possibly have to drop out from school, parents would scold him, teach would have to give him extra lessons, no more playng soccer, these are the outcome of his action which is failing the test. So what can we do to solve this.

Formula:

Object = Taking Test
Action = Failing the Test.
Outcome = Scolding from parents, No soccer, study more, extra remedial classes, possible drop out from school.

Due to multiple Outcome which is negative, the boy would worry too much, AND due to worrying too much he could not concentrate for his upcoming test. When he can't concentrate, he would definately Fail and the Outcome that he has predicted and worrying about would come true.

The only way to Solve it is...To Pass the Test. And how to pass the test, is just to concentrateand study well, how to study well, pay attention in class always and have extra tutoring. Well, if his mind set is to Pass and he has that confidence in him, he would not worry to much about the Outcome. So the new formula is,

Object = Taking Test.
Action = Pass the Test.
Outcome = Parents would be proud, possibly able to play as a reward for studying well.

We as a tutor or techers or even parents can help those with worrying problems, ask them what are their Intention in doing something, if their intention is wrong, the outcome would not be desireble. Know why they are doing it and what's the reason for doing it. Example from the previous, Taking the test is a way to upgrade his skill and knowledge, for his benefit when he go up one level in study. Possibly explain good jobs require good knowledge. So people who worries can be help and even US ourself can help ourself to stop worrying and to keep calm for a moment to think, Why are we worrying, what's the Action that we are taking that worries us.

Fate Reveals A Clue

In life there will always be a situation where you have make decisions. And the out come of your decisions will depend your future.
For example, there is a Fisherman, he is very hungry and has a choice to make, prepare his boat and fishing equipments and row the boat out in the open sea and Fish. Another choice is to travel to a far market and just buy a fish. But choice has it's own problems, if he go out in the sea, he might get some fish or no fish at all, and for the market, it is far and sometimes the fish would usually sold out quite fast. So what do you think will be his decision? To go out in the sea and try his luck, and work hard to get some fish to eat, or, to walk a long journey to go to the market just to find out if there is any fish for sale.
Both situation has the thing call "try your luck". But we have to think, which situation when happens we can work on it to achive our purpose, that is to get fish.
So, the answer i will tell you when there is a comment and i will tell you the reason why the choice is choosen better then the other one.

Judge The Book By It's Cover

Have you ever have in a situation when one look at that person's appearance and facial attributes you can instantly tell what type of person he/she is. It's our nature to judge people by how they look, and it's our own way of either to approach the person or stay away.
Some case where the person looks smart, wears a tie, a jacket, black shoes and a well comb hair. What's your 1st impression? A businessman maybe? or someone came back from work, or just a guy who is dress, overdress to impress. Then he began to speak, the way he express his language is well polished, speak with a smile, so you can be 60% sure that he works in some office or a full time salesman maybe.
As we can see, how we dress up and act infront of someone can sometimes be an indirect signal tell the other party of what you are without telling them or boasting about your past experiences.
But if could be quite misleading as like in the old kung fu fighting movies where there will be one guy wearing large circular hat, covering his head, drinking water, does'nt bothers anyone and sits quietly can turn out to be a skillfull fighter. Where the bad guys will always the one who is roudy and start to attract attention to everyone.
Conclusion, so if the other person who you are with acted diffrently or feels uncomfortable, do chack on your own appearance and your behaviour, not to ask him/her "hey what's wrong? Are you ok?" Obviously he/she will say ok as not to offend u in any way or another.

Patience Runs In Your Blood

Last time i do wonder why some people are so patience and some are not.
From my point of view, it does have to do something from your past, how you are brought up and some cases are medical, and some are actually in your blood.
Though through horoscope does give us brief overall basic understanding what type of person he/she is by when the person is born.
I'm the type of person that belief that everyone can change, although sea water wil always be salty, we can take a glass of sea water and add them with plain water and it will be not that salty. Well obviously if u add plain water into the sea, it won't do much diffrence.
If there is anyone reading this post, please do share your comments with me about what u think of patience and how you relate in your daily life, as how you cope and how someone can hold that much patience within one self.

To Begin With

A pair of hands, a pair of legs and a Brain. All that is needed to do your daily task own your own. The only way to solve a problem is by thinking, not to think too hard or too complicated but to think smart.

"You can only see the bottom of the pond if the water is clear."

"To drink a water from a glass is to hold the glass with your hand and bring it to your mouth...maybe there is another way, the only solution is to think. "

"Nothing in this world is for free, to gain something you have to work for it."

"Control yourself, manage yourself, think for your needs and your flaws, work on it, solve it to make yourself a better person...No person can do it for you, you have to make it work on your own."

"Be close to yourself, know yourself as the only person who know yourself is Yourself. So be yourself."

: Drone :

Note: These words are for those who accept it, for those who does'nt accept, they have my fullest respect for their own way of thought. As diffrent people think diffrently but they acted the same. I hope you don't mind about my language usage, if it's irritates you please do close the window :D LOL!