What you think of what you see

This is an example for reference,

Sam showed to his friend a pen which is black in color. Keep in mind that Sam did'nt tell to his friend what the ink color of the pen.

Sam: Hi Jack, i'll like to show something to you.

Sam show the pen.

Sam: What is the color of this pen?

Jack without any second thought says.

Jack: Black of course.

Sam: Oh ic, here you go.

Jack: Why?

Sam: The only way to find out if your answer is correct.

Jack holds the pen and looks at him with full of questions in his mind.

Sam: Hmm a Black pen? Is it the outer covering of the pen is black that makes you assume that the Ink is Black? Or is it due to everyday in life whenever you wanted to know what is the color of the Ink you see it from the outer covering?

Jack still in confusing.

Jack: Well i guess it's Black as the covering is Black so i'm going to test it.

Jack took out a paper and began scribbling. To his amazement, the pen has no ink!

Jack: What? A pen with no ink?

Sam: Yes, the pen is actually has no color at all. If you wish to assume it's a Black pen then by all means, but no matter how Black that pen is, now it is useless as it has no ink.


Bottom Line:

We usually judge a book by it's cover, that the basic reation of us or method that we use to know something that we see that we are unsure of.

When we see a person for the 1st time, we usually assume and judge him by the looks and by the appearance, just like looking at the pen and guessing that the pen is Black in Ink. It's only when we start to test the pen then we get to know what color is the pen is. As like the Pen example, We can judge what color of the pen by looking on the covering, Yes that's true it would probally contains Black Ink. Untill we test it then we can know if there is actually any Ink in there.

So, when judgeing a person, don't always rely on the 1st covering of the Pen, assumtion can lead to huge mistake. Example, if you decided to buy a Black Ink pen and just grab one, when you reach home, you tend to discover that the pen has no Ink.
This similar example can be use for finding a relationship, don't jump to any person that you fall in love with, test him out, see if the pen is really Black.